I hope you enjoy listening to this song while reading this post.

What I’ve Outgrown

There are things I have slowly grown out of and why?

Because there is a time for everything in life. For me, life is a continuous process of change — both inner and outer. And what I’ve outgrown are habits that once had their own time and meaning. But they no longer serve me in the same way today.

I must admit, once in a while, I look back and reflect on everything I’ve done. And I ask myself — would I have done it differently?
My immediate answer is NO.
And I feel it in my whole being. Because I know that’s where I was at the time, and I needed that lifestyle back then.

What about you? Do you regret your past and the habits you had back then?

I also know there have been moments when I knew: Now I need to change course. And I doubted myself — “Am I able to do it?”
That doubt was often followed by a deep whisper within: It is time for change. Continuing this path will not do you any good.

So, it became a kind of battle dance between inner knowing and doubt.
And once again, looking back, I see how trusting those deep inner knowings leads us in the right direction.
It’s never a straight path. A lot happens along the way. Many times it is full of ups and downs. Round and round.
But isn’t life always like that — especially when we’re trying to create change?

So, what have I outgrown?

Short and clear answer: partying and drinking. I had a lot of fun with it. Me, being the wild lioness back in those days, it made me streetwise. But honestly, I now see that it had a more hidden layer.

Being a party lioness — the noise helped.
Alcohol helped.
Distraction helped.
I was numbing myself while having loads of fun.
And I did have a lot of fun. Until I didn’t.

At some point, I realised I needed to change course. I heard the inner whisper. And change was invited in — step by step. Like it always is.
But shift often comes so slowly that we don’t even notice it.

But back to the track, what have I outgrown? I can name many more things. Inner patterns that I can now see were holding me back.
Because our inner patterns — our inner addictions, like thought patterns, emotional loops, and old ways of coping — they’re often what keep us from stepping into what we truly dream of.

I was somehow addicted to pushing my body.
Training hard.
Partying hard and training hard.
It was also a way to avoid looking at what was really happening inside.
My body became my chimney — it moved the inner noise out. It was a form of distraction.

Please understand me correctly: exercise is necessary for our health and well-being.
But for me, it was also a way to avoid feeling what was going on inside.
So, exhausting my body became my outlet.

But what needed to be faced was still there — just beneath the surface.

Anyone reading this — do you recognise that habit? Maybe in the past… or maybe even now?

Today, my body no longer enjoys that kind of pressure.
I still love movement — and it’s what I’m building my business around now.
But for me, movement is more holistic.
My inner state influences how I move.

Sometimes, movement is being still.

I could write a whole post about this.
And honestly, I’m still learning — every day — to tell the difference between being lazy and being truly exhausted.
I’m still learning when I need to rest and simply be.
And when I need to engage in physical activity.

I always dedicate a few hours a week to physical movement.
But now, I listen more.
I feel more connected to my body.

What is movement to you?

For me, movement is holistic.
It includes shifting patterns within — thoughts, emotions, and states of mind.

Mind, body, and emotions are not separate.
And how I move influences how I meet life.
When tension lives inside me, my body shows it.
When I get triggered, my body reacts.

It always comes back to learning the unique language of the body.

Different parts of my body reflect different themes:

• The lower back — Do I feel held and safe in life?
• The knees — Am I flexible in my dance with life?
• My neck and shoulders — What burdens, obligations, and family responsibilities am I carrying?

It’s a topic that deeply interests me. It’s my passion.
That’s also why I’ve now put all my energy into creating and sharing my free four-week online course.
Into building something that feels true.

Once again, I’m challenging myself by stepping out of my comfort zone.
I’m doing what I truly dream of doing — something I’ve dreamt about for years. But never quite had the confidence to fully step into. Now I’m doing it. I have created a free four-week online course. And in doing that, I face many of my inner self-sabotaging voices.
We all have them, right?

Looking back at life, I also see how everything has turned out just fine. That realisation is my anchor to trust the process. So, I show up every day. Even when doubt feels overwhelming. Building something from scratch takes time.
It takes effort. It takes patience. Exposing myself like this is another part of it.
It is, for sure, outside my comfort zone. I reach out. I open up about my life journey. Not because I claim to know the way. But because I truly believe change is possible when we truly feel and see the need for it. Deep within, we know that nobody can change us except ourselves. Right? We can be inspired by others. We can receive the help we need. But the path is ours to walk.

And that path is not external. It moves inside us. Each of us carries an inner landscape.
And that inner landscape is constantly moving —if we allow it.

That is why, in response to the prompt What have I outgrown?, I share this.

Because living a good life begins with listening to what is really going on inside. Meeting it with acceptance.
With trust. And so comes the steps. The ones we need to take, from right there.

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By the way, someone recently commented on the fact that I’m offering this course for free.

I know her words came from a good place, but they also started a process within me.
She said:
“You should never do things for free. When you give it for free, people don’t appreciate it — and they also doubt your skills. And you are skilled. You should get paid for it. Why are you doing it for free?”

Her words lingered with me. It’s the first time I’m offering this, and there are a few reasons I chose to keep it free this time:

I believe that teachers are always students, too. Every teaching experience is a learning experience. I know I will grow from offering this, just as much as anyone taking part. Since this is the first time I am guiding the course,
I wanted it to be a space to listen. To learn. To refine it through real participation and feedback. At this point, I want to do this without the pressure of a price tag.
If you feel curious, you are welcome to check it out and see if it resonates with your journey at the moment.

Feel free to share it with others who may benefit from it. I would truly appreciate that. 🤍

Calm Your Racing Mind

This course is about empowerment. And for me, the way there goes through the body’s wisdom.

The course begins 23 February and takes just 1–2 hours per week, fully at your own pace.

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