Ironically, it belongs to the story that while she began to focus on her breath, her sweet friend came with these well-meaning words; “You must also remember to bite your teeth together. That is what my Mom and Dad say to me. ” The fact that parents can still in 2018 have a mindset like this in the upbringing of their children, turned me to a silent listener in the schoolyard. It is said that parents know the best for their children. I am firmly convinced that most parents love their children high above everything on earth, and of course, they want the best for their kids, but if parents just carry on with what they have been taught, without reflecting on it, then what? Is it still the best for the kids?
I have lived long enough to believe that no one else than myself has the key to my path, and my processes through life. I am convinced that once we realize that, we create our own fortune. No matter what everyone else may think.
My opinion is that there is a strength in the vulnerability. Of course, in the depths of all our emotional human layers resides vulnerability; and what happens if we dare to explore what lies behind the worry, anxiety, aggression and grief?
How would it go with the film industry and all the movies that appeal to our feelings? What would movies be about when there was no drama? How could politicians rule without being able to split people? I have no idea since we are not yet there but one thing is for sure; If we listen to ourselves, we will probably find the key. There is no easy way or quick fix, but we have a muscle, like all our other muscles in the body and we need to train that muscle day by day and in every single moment. By accepting what comes up without judging, a new window might open. For me, the journey has ended in not denying painful emotions, but rather resting in them and see what reveals behind. It has been a kind of journey where I day by day, learn to strengthen another muscle: “Accept-without-judge-and-love-me-self-muscle”. I want to keep my vulnerability as human and actually see the strength in it. What about you? What are your reflections on what I write? Feel free to comment and share your experiences.
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Hi At the end of the Norwegian blog there is a link where you can read the English text or under the category “ocean of emotions”
Do you get there?
thanks for your interest by the way.
Dear Parisa, it is so good to to hear your thoughts. It is taking me back to Calca and the Huachuma Wasi! It was such a blessing to get to know you and I look forward to seeing you in Norway someday! Peru is still lovely and seems to provide a great place for opening to our emotions and healing. I too felt lonely this Christmas and yes, people shouldn’t be shamed for their emotions, but rather encouraged, like you, to feel them. Otherwise, we stuff them down and it leads to what? A cover up through food, over eating, sex addictions and panic attacks as you said. I am just beginning to explore my emotions as you do. You asked me once if I thought that I was jealous. I replied, “I don’t know.” You see, I never allowed myself to explore these emotions that are considered “bad.” But just this week, I saw myself get jealous when a group of guests left Nidra Wasi to stay in a nearby house.One guest told me, “I don’t like change.” My inner child is afraid of change or of sharing people for fear that I will lose them. When I let myself feel the emotions, then I could soften into what I was learning, and to be gracious with the guests, who loved staying here. They weren’t rejecting me, they were just moving on to their next step. I haven’t “lost” them. I just had to give up some control. They are still in my life, inviting me on hikes. We will have a future connection. Thank you Parisa for your lovely insights. hugs, Jennifer
Sometimes I assume life is a playground and we have to play around it to discover, which spot we like, and under which circumstances we can evolve. Seeing our true emotions without judging them, being ashamed of them or trapped in them is the key to many rooms. Many times, easier said than done, but I guess that is what this play is about.